Monday, June 7, 2010

For Me & My Daughter In Ethiopia

So you know how you have those things you want to do before a certain age, before you die, etc, etc? Those things could be God-centered or worldly. You know, your bucket list?

And then there are things you sign up for that you have no idea that you'd ever do that. Better yet, that you'd say you'd never do. Yeah, that's where I'm at right now...

Let me back up before moving forward...

Growing up, I was always a big kid. I was always a big adult. Check that. An overweight young adult. Check that again ... an obese adult. I've always "justified" some of the weight because of the scoliosis (curvature of the spine) that I have and I would be taller if my spine was straight. I had surgery in 1995 due to a 64 degree curve in my shoulder. They straightened it halfway to about 32 degrees but my spine is still over in my shoulder. One good side effect from surgery was that I grew 3 inches during surgery. I went into surgery between 5'10"-5'11" and came out of surgery 9 hours later between 6'1"-6'2". To tell you how bad the curve was, I was supposed to be 6'5"-6'6" so I had ~7 inches of spine curvature in my shoulder. Nuts. Nonetheless, I justified my weight because my body 'thought' I was 6'6" and the weight wouldn't be as bad on someone that height. I know. Sad.

OK, sorry for the tangent.

So before meeting Amber, I decided enough was enough. So, about 10 years ago (wow, can't believe that was 10 years ago), I bought a treadmill, started running and eating better. I got up to running 20+ miles a week and lost over 100 pounds. Through the course of many, many events, I got out of that routine. After our marriage, I gained alot of that weight back. Throughout the past 3-4 years, I lost some and have maintained close to what I've lost ... +/- 10 pounds probably. But I'm still ~30 pounds heavier than I want to be.

OK, so couple that story with the story of our adoption. With Silas, we were able to use savings and a HELOC on our house for his adoption. With our baby girl, those aren't there and now we're having to trust God in a way we didn't necessarily have to with Silas' adoption. For those who know me, you know I don't like asking for things. If I can figure out a way to do it myself, I choose that path every time. I know that is limiting and creates obstacles where God is trying to give me freedom, but honestly my pride usually gets in the way of that.

So, a few months ago, I decided I needed to start running again. I know my metabolism and I have to exercise ... it doesn't matter what I eat. My metabolism is slower than (enter slowest thing you know here). Well, easier said than done. It is just so hard to find time in my schedule. I am up at 5:15-5:30am, at work by 6:30am, home usually around 4:30pm, hang out with family and then eat supper with the family around 5-5:30pm. We will then hang out/play outside/etc and Silas goes down between 7:30-8pm. By that time, the farthest thing in my mind is working out. So I don't. And I selfishly do not want to give up that family time together.

A couple months ago, I get this wild-hair idea that I could force myself to work out if I signed up to run the 1/2 marathon in our town this fall. And then thought I could get family/friends to sponsor me for our adoption. So I tell a couple people about my idea and they think it's great. I kinda laugh and say that I doubt it will happen but it's a good idea for someone. Well, then Amber starts telling people I may do it. The snowball is growing and I honestly didn't have any intentions on training for this thing. I can't find 20 minutes to work out ... let alone training for a 1/2 marathon! So, I still joke that I doubt it will happen. I mean, seriously, for those that know me, that's actually a pretty funny thought. Me running 13.1 miles. Yeah, pretty comical.

Well, that thought hasn't been able to go away over the past few weeks and has been growing stronger and stronger daily. I have felt like it has been an true invitation from God. So, last Friday, on my birthday of all days, I signed up for the race. I know, a day of weakness thinking I'm a year older and realize how old I thought 34 was at one point in my life. That's a whole 'nother topic there. Nevertheless, I'm committed now. Paid my money and everything. Still can't believe I will actually be doing this. But, here is what I do know through this invitation.
  • It's for me. I need to get back healthy. For me. For Amber. For Silas. And for my daughter in Ethiopia.
  • It's for my daughter. God showed me that I can spend time with her while running, especially since I'm not doing as much on this blog. I can be praying for her and for her birth family. I can imagine what it will be like for her to be in my life. I can dream of what her face will look like. I can envision what it will be like to see her picture for the first time, to hold her for the first time, to be together as a family of 4.
  • I can ask others to sponsor me in the race to help bring our little girl home. This goes back to the pride thing. Nonetheless, I know walls will be broken down here for me.
  • For Jesus. At the end of this, He will be glorified. It is He who is giving me the strength to run this race. It is He who has marked the course of my life. It is He who all good things come from. It is He that has put the love of the orphan in our heart. I can't wait to see what He'll do through this ... how He will change me physically, emotionally, and spiritually.

OK, so there it is. It's public. I have started training to get my cardio up. It looks like Silas will be helping me train a couple days a week in his jogging stroller. We'll see how long he enjoys that in the hot summer but he and I can talk about his sister together ... that is, once I'm able to breathe while running and don't sound like I'm going to fall over hyperventilating. If nothing else, it should lead to some entertaining Facebook statuses.

For my friends out there, hold me accountable. I'm going to need your help! I will keep you informed of my progress. The good thing is that my posts are so scarce here that it will look like I'm making good progress between each post :)


3 Blessings said...

Yay! So glad you are going to do it. Stepping out of the comfort zone is when we grown the most! You can do it!
Amy & Paul
Happy belated birthday!

Benton Family said...

Proud of you Troy! You can so do this--you will be an encouragement to others!


Tisha said...

You can do it Troy!!! Let me know about the sponorship, we would love to do that!

mary leigh said...

So proud of you! And your sweet little girl will look back on this and be so proud of her daddy!
We are cheeering (and praying!) for you! We plan to be there day of to celebrate your victory!

Matt said...

Looking forward to tracking your progress!

From a full heart... said...

I have said it before and I will say it again...if I can do it ANYONE can!!! You WILL finish that race on your own two feet with angels at your side! :) And we will all be there to cheer you on!

The Hull's at #4 said...

Conviction is UGLY... I support you ALL the WAY!!! You can do it Troy!! Let us know about the sponsorship!!